So you’ve decided to step up as a Queen. Hooray!
Now comes the tough bit!
Are your knees knocking underneath that beautiful Queen’s dress you’re wearing?! I get it, I feel like that too, a lot of the time actually.
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BUT, you cannot let fear hold you back.
When you’re a Queen you will naturally have obstacles to overcome, it’s kind of one of the things that comes as part of the whole package of being a business owner.
If you want to grow your Queendom though, you’ve got to figure out how to overcome those obstacles, fear or not.
You’re a Queen – you don’t let obstacles get in your way. You know you have the power to work through your challenges, and any fears that might be holding you back.
There is always more than one way to achieve the success you desire as a Queen. I can bet there have been many, many obstacles you’ve overcome over the years. You can draw on that strength to overcome challenges you’re facing right now and in the future.
You can shatter any limiting beliefs with your sceptre, and get that crown of yours shining again in no time!
Yes, you may have to get help to get creative to come up with a plan, but it’s all possible. I believe that when things are meant to be then everything will feel like it’s in alignment. If you’re hitting obstacle after obstacle, then it might be time to reflect on whether you need a different battle plan.
Sometimes those challenges and detours can be the best thing ever in your business, as they help you to think creatively.
Being a Queen means learning from repeated ‘failures’, disappointments and lessons, but often that’s when the magic happens! You reflect, learn and find other fabulous ways to grow your business.
Very often, the biggest fear in your business is the one around bringing in money. You worry that you don’t have the sales skills to help convert clients, you worry that you won’t be able to pay your bills, you worry that you don’t have the services people want to pay for, the list goes on.
One of the skills that really helped me work through my money blocks, and still does, is EDT, Emotional Dowsing Technique. It doesn’t matter what level of business you’re at, we all have more money blocks that can come up from time to time that need clearing. With money blocks, often fear is attached.
I recently ran some EDT Money Block sessions, and it was amazing what came up for clients. Blocks that were hidden that they didn’t even know they had. Once they were cleared, the clients and money started to flow.
Sometimes I know it can feel like you’re pushing water uphill, and nobody is listening to you. Keep singing your song, keep telling people about what you do, keep pushing through that fear. The consistency pays off. And remember to always bring a bit of fun into your biz, it’s the best way to save your sanity!
Here’s three simple strategies to help you work through your fear:
1. Write down what you’re feeling fearful about
Let’s work through some of the stories you might be telling yourself about your biz right now. Here’s a few common statements my clients share with me:
- “I have to work really hard to be successful.”
- “It’s challenging getting new clients.”
- “I find technology really frustrating.”
- “Sales conversations are awkward.”
- “I never have enough time to do what I want, or need to do.”
- “I take two steps forward and one back.”
On their own, these statements don’t seem that powerful, but when you attach them to a story that’s fearful, which might lead to things like:
- “I won’t be able to pay my mortgage.”
- “I won’t have time to spend with my family.”
- “People will judge me”,
you can see how it can make you feel fearful.
Just saying these statements out loud can remove some of the power the fear has over you, and you can then start to explore ways of moving through it.
2. Challenge Your Fear With Some Questions
Taking this a step further, ask yourself a few questions around what you’ve put down. Challenge your thinking.
- Is it true?
- What evidence do you have around that fear?
- What could you learn that might make this all seem easier?
- Who could support you?
- What would be a better way of thinking about this, that would empower you rather than hold you back?
3. Use the Circle of Control/Influence
Consider using Stephen Covey’s Circle of Control or Influence. If you haven’t heard of it, think of an archery target with three circles. The central circle – the bullseye, and the two outer circles.
In circle one, the bullseye, you list all of the things that are within your control.
In circle two, you list all of the things that you can influence.
In circle three, the outer circle, you list all of the things that you can’t control.
This is such a simple, yet amazing little tool for helping you to work through your fear. When you place your different areas of concern in the circles, you will be able to release some of the fear as you will realise there are only certain things within your control that you can actually manage or influence.
So, let’s get that crown shining again. Clear the fear in your business, so that you can run your Queendom with confidence.
Be the Queen with knees knocking, and still take action, knowing that fear is absolutely okay.
On a side note, I have been in the place where I’ve literally had my knees knocking in a presentation when I was doing my HR degree, so when I talk about knees knocking I mean literally and figuratively.
Before I go, let’s do a quick recap to shift that fear:
- Write down what you’re feeling fearful about
- Challenge your fear with some questions
- Use the circle of control/influence to guide you
PS. If you want to clear your fear, and other limiting beliefs around your business, while having some fun obviously, book a Dolly Magic Session (which is an EDT Session) with me. My clients are getting some amazing results and feeling on top of the world, just like the Queens they were born to be.
Until next time, ciao for now!
If you’d like to do some money clearing, check out my Dolly Magic Sessions
PS. You don’t need to be a Queen on your own. If you want support, check out my Straighten Your Crown Sessions