Let’s talk about worry. It’s not pleasant at the best of times, but what I want to share is how worry will not allow you to build your business, you’ve got to chill out. It can hold you back in your business so I’ll be sharing some simple strategies to help you kick your worry into touch. Listen to the podcast below, or scroll down if you prefer to read the transcript.
Worry is completely pointless, unless you’re one of those people that can use worry to motivate you to take action of course. If you are then keep worrying, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!
Worry will not allow you to build your business, you’ve got to chill out
Trust me on this, I can be a lovely little worrier. It used to be that if I wasn’t worrying about something I’d be worried that I wasn’t worrying!
The problem with worrying is we become great at story telling
We create these amazing fabrications of what might happen or who we are when in reality things might not be bad after all. Now I’m not trying to make light of some the very real concerns that come up in life, I’m talking about those niggling worries where we ultimately view ourselves as not good enough.
I was working with a client recently who had lost a couple of clients through nothing other than circumstances, no fault of her own. She then started going down a rabbit hole of not knowing where to begin, there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
In our time working together, she was doubting her ability to get new clients, despite having had clients for many years. The doubt was creeping in because it had all come as a shock to her. Business was normally booming at this time of year, but this time was different.
If worry is taking you down a rabbit hole then I want you to stop it right now!
Worry can kill your confidence
When you lose your confidence you stop showing up, you question every single thing you do, and feel as though you’re going to get found out for being a fraud at a moment’s notice.
It would have been easy for me to spend time with my client on how terrible her situation was, or could be, but what good would that do? What we did instead was stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on some solutions, getting some real clarity about how she could move forward in her business to bring that lost income back in again.
We talked about what things would lift her spirits to get her into a better place, such as inspirational quotes, books, meditation and a gratitude practice where she can note down all of the fabulous things that are happening.
She needed to spend time doing all she could to get back into that positive place again so that she could start to focus more clearly. We all know there’s nothing worse than talking with a client about working with them when you’re coming from a place of lack or need. It doesn’t feel great for anyone, so I encouraged her before each call with a client to get into a place of positivity, not attached to the outcome but coming from a place of service.
The interesting thing is when you start to get focused on solutions your mood starts to shift, you can begin to see the wood for the trees finally. Taking action is a great way to overcome some of that worrying. You don’t have time to think about it!
If you’re familiar with Stephen Covey’s, Circles of Control and Influence then you’ll know that there is only so much that you can control. If you haven’t heard of it then there are basically three circles, the outer circle is related to those things that you can’t control, the middle circle those things you can influence and the inner circle what you can control. You can kick worry into touch by focusing on those things you can control and influence and letting the rest of it just sort itself out. Focus on the small things.
You have to put things in perspective. With my client for, example, was it true that she wasn’t good enough for anything just because she wasn’t working with 2 particular clients? Absolutely not, she had years of experience and work under her belt to prove otherwise, but we can so easily get into that rut of believing our own storytelling. It’s time to hit that pause button on worry – park it until later if you have to. Set aside some time to worry later if you need to, and for now focus on what you can do next, and then the next step after that.
Surround yourself with positivity if worry is your go-to thing
I stopped watching/reading/listening to the news a couple of years ago. I take the attitude that the news will find me if I need to know it. Am I out of touch with a few things? Yes, definitely. Am I being naïve? Maybe, but am I a more positive person by not watching it – totally! I don’t need to fill my head with negativity about economic downturns, politics and war. I’d rather fill it with things that help me to create an amazing life and business that I love.
They say you’re the sum of the 5 people you hang around with. Whoever ‘they’ are. Take a look around you, who are you surrounding yourself with? If they aren’t lifting you up, but bringing you down then maybe it’s time for a change.
Worry is a complete waste of time, it won’t help you and may keep you stuck, far better to use that energy to focus on a way forward for your business
If you want some support to improve your confidence and visibility in your business book a free discovery session with me to find out how we can work together, so I can help you to get out of your rabbit hole.
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