Gratitude

I have always been a really grateful person, despite some of the awful circumstances life has thrown at me.  I try to see the beauty in everyone and everything.  I don’t always get it right, but I do try and see the positive and part of that includes being grateful for what I have.  Gratitude helps us to stay focused in the moment.  While we may not have all we need/want right now we can still be grateful for what we do have.

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In our family we play a gratitude game, pretty much most days, where we ask each other for 3 things that we are grateful for and we share why that is. This exercise is invaluable as it doesn’t matter how bad things might appear in life there are always small things to be appreciated. It’s just that sometimes we need to look a bit harder for them. By taking the time to appreciate the smaller things in life it puts you in a better frame of mind to be able to deal with other issues. You become a stronger, more resourceful, person somehow.

The process of doing this exercise in written form though becomes much more powerful. It makes you really consider what is important in life to you and what that particular ‘entity’ brings to you. When you see a list of all of the things that you appreciate it makes you realise how very fortunate you are.  It can take some of that feeling of ‘carrying the world on your shoulders’ away.

If you’re in a negative place and focusing only on the negative aspects of your life and you can’t see outside of your own problem/issues this exercise will help you to focus on the positive aspects and start to appreciate what you have.  This in turn can bolster your self-esteem and strengthen you in the process.

How do you like people to show gratitude to you?  Do you tell them or do you set an expectation in your mind of what you like and then when it doesn’t match up get disappointed?  My husband used to be terrible at saying, ‘Thank you’ and it used to really hit a nerve with me because I try to thank everyone for what they do for me.  It costs nothing. He used to use the ‘Well it goes without saying’ argument, but in my case it didn’t.  Once I shared with him how important it was to me and at the same time changed my expectation of him being grateful in the way I wanted, we got to a middle ground that works brilliantly.  If we hadn’t had that conversation in the first place we’d have both been irritated by each other!

In our family we say thank you to/for each other every day.  When was the last time you told someone that you were grateful for them?  I challenge you to go out today and tell one person how grateful you are for them, for their friendship, their time, their _____ (fill in the gap)

Personally I’d like to thank you for reading my posts, it really means a lot to me :)

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Living In The Moment

Living in the moment is a real challenge for me, is it for you too?  I’m future focused so I’m constantly thinking about the next goal I want to achieve, or the next thing I need to get done.  I have to really remind myself to stop for a moment and enjoy life for what it is.  We’ve all read/heard the benefits of doing this and how it can make us feel but life so often gets in the way.  Why do we find it so difficult to enjoy what’s happening right now?

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We just need to notice it.

 

I think a key word for living in the moment is ‘noticing’.  Start noticing what’s happening around you.  What sounds, smells, tastes and sensations are there in that moment.  What are you feeling?  The more you notice what’s happening the more life is breathtakingly beautiful.

Take time to stop and smell the flowers, notice the beauty around you.  It’s amazing what you see/hear/feel when you start to notice.  Have you ever looked at the underside of a mushroom cap?  It’s absolutely fabulous, so intricate in design!  What are you like when you’re eating, do you taste the food or are you in too much of a rush to get out of the door/do the next thing?  What happens when you listen to someone, I mean really listen?  You will find you learn a lot more about that person and also more about you too.  One thing I love to do to bring me into the moment is play with my little dog, Lulu.  I snuggle into her and feel her warm coat against my cheek, listen to her ‘talk’ to me (yes, she talks!  I’ve clicker trained her to do lots of different tricks!) and look into her big brown malteser eyes!  (notice the link to chocolate there – told you I was a chocolate addict!)

What are your distractions?  How do they take you away from the present moment?  On my facebook page this week I’ve been posing questions around this week’s topic.  I asked what people are easily distracted by.  We had some great (and very diverse!) answers such as ‘facebook’ & ‘people’ to ‘chickens’ & ‘glitter tape’!   It’s so easy to get distracted in this modern world, it’s taking the time to notice when we are distracted and bringing ourselves back into the moment.

Where do you spend most of your time/thoughts?  In the past, the present or the future?

A scientific research project called ‘Track Your Happiness’ found  that people spend nearly half of their time (46.7%) thinking about something other than what they are actually doing’ (Source: The Guardian).   You can read more about the Track Your Happiness project here.  I think I might take part!

It’s the simple things…

What makes life worth living for you?  We often forget about the small pleasures in life…. a smile or compliment from another person, the taste and smell of freshly ground coffee, the gorgeous colours surrounding us.

What will you notice today just by spending one minute focusing on the now?

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