Welcome to day 3 of my 30 day Blogging Challenge. If you missed Day One’s post you can read it here. I’m going to be writing about confidence and each day sharing some tips for building your confidence slowly. The tools and hints/tips I’m sharing can be used for you or your coaching clients but for now I want you to focus on you. Building your confidence can have a great impact on your business and life. You will be amazed at what you can do when you feel more confident.
Yesterday I set you with the task of getting a journal and to start writing a list of your strengths. Today set up a separate page headed ‘Compliments’ or a name that resonates with you. I’ve got some clients that collect ‘I’m amazing quotes’, ‘Lovely things people have said’, ‘Why I’m awesome’ etc.
Find a title that resonates with you and start to collect compliments now and throughout the series, remembering the following 3 step rule;
- Say thank you – People don’t have to give you compliments – they’ve taken time out of their day to say something nice to you. It’s like a gift. When you’re given a gift you say, “thank you” and that’s the same with compliments, so each and every time someone compliments you I want you to say, “thank you”.
- I then want you to record the compliment on your compliments page. This is a fantastic thing to refer back to if you’re having a day racked with self-doubt. We all have them.
- Now finally, and probably the hardest task of the week, is I want you to accept it. Believe it. Know that the person telling it to you wants you to know how lovely you are; whether it’s your lipstick looks nice, or a piece of work you created is fab. It doesn’t matter – just accept it. Now this one can take time but the more you get into the practice of believing others when they give you compliments the more your confidence will grow
I am truly blessed to have an amazing husband that compliments me every single day. Do I trust what he says? Yes totally. What about when he tells me I’m beautiful? Ummm, well I trust that’s what he believes but I pretty quickly dismiss his comment in my mind. What impact does it have on the other person when we do this? Luckily he never gives up on me, but he would be quite within his rights to!
Leave a comment below with one of the best compliments you’ve ever been given. It’s quite a tough one. I was racking my brains to think of mine but I think it’s this ..(luckily I keep my own ‘Lovely Things’ pages).. “You are so full of positive energy, you make me feel inspired to make change in my life.”
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I was once told that my handwriting was beautiful, and it had made an application I had made stand out – so I got an interview! (Got the job too!!)
Ooh isn’t that lovely and how amazing that you got not only an interview but the job too! Love it!
Love this idea of writing down compliments especially as I can’t remember any! So I have to write my compliment today from my BBF….thanking me for the inspiration to do piece of business a certain way and for keeping her going this past year through the hard times. Love her and her business to bits
It’s so important to write them down because it’s too easy not to notice them or to dismiss them altogether. Well done for coming up with something. Now enjoy collecting
Hi,
Ruby
I took your suggestion to make a compliment journal. WOW! This really does boost confidence. I went through my website, blog and facebook comments. I was truly amazed by the comments. Thank you for recommending this exercise. Here are a couple of compliment I would like to share. “I always like reading your posts!” “Love your post and beautiful website” and “I am grateful for stumbling upon your blog today! Thank you.”
Patti
Ah I’m so glad you found it helpful, great idea to scroll through all of the different areas. Thanks for sharing your compliments too. Feels good, doesn’t it!
I used to keep a book of compliments years ago. Stuff that made me smile but I was scared I’d forget. It’s a great idea as we can so often overlook them.
It’s a lovely thing to keep, especially for those days when things aren’t going how we want. You’re right, we do forget. I always date mine too so that I can remember the moment and take in the warm fuzzy feelings all over again! I wonder if you still have your compliments book? It would be great for you to go through it again!